I was a “perfect parent” before having kids and then it happens: I became a parent! When my kids were first born I did everything right. I read every book, double checked everything twice, sometimes three or four times before leaving the house. Some new moms handmake everything that went into their child’s body or wore on their body.
Then it dawns on you.
I’m not perfect, in fact I’m not even that great of a parent! And sometimes, you even fail in parenting 101.
But that’s okay. I don’t want to be perfect. I try my hardest to make sure they are not in harms way, don’t eat too much sugar and if I’m really doing my job, I try and keep myself (and the kids) out of jail! I do not look good in stripes or orange!
Honestly, I just don’t want to screw up too terribly. Want to know what helps? I surround myself with mothers who are just like me, not “perfect moms”. I also feel better after watching Nickmom when the kids got to bed. It’s a perfect reminder that I’m not perfect and that is OKAY!
But life has changed for me since having kids. Since I focus on travel and tourism on my blog I thought I would illustrate how we traveled before and after having kids. First off you have succeeded by not forgetting to BRING the kids. You don’t want to pull a Home Alone memory for the little ones.
Before having kids, we planned travel revolving around key element: Relaxation, Adventure and Experience. When you have kids travel revolved around theme parks, how long you will be in a vehicle with your kids and will they (or I) be medicated while we are driving to our destination?
Traveling before kids meant you only traveled 1st class! Traveling after having kids means smelly feet, hoping for no vomiting or peeing in pants. Please dear God, do not forget the charges and earbuds for
you the kids.
Remember scuba diving in Hawaii or para-sailing in Mexico? Those were the best day of our lives. Now we build sandcastles and look for seashells on the beach. Yes honey, you can bury me in the sand….again!
Traveling before kids meant spending an entire day at the golf course, having a complete spa day or shopping day all to yourself. After kids: arcades, carousels and a 2nd round of putt putt.
Food? Top local restaurants, food crawls and celebrity chef dining is out of the question. Instead, it’s from the kids menu, wrapped in paper or you get a completely overpriced $15 kid’s meal!
Have you ever purchased local art in New Orleans, fine wines from a winery in Napa or had an African artifact shipped to you as a souvenir? Now it’s pressed pennies, stuffed animal of your favorite mouse and the dreaded local t-shirt.
We love our kids, but traveling before and after kids is night and day. The experiences may still be rewarding, your pockets have less jingle when you return home and of course, you
need to drink more than usual (due to necessity). But look on the bright side, you REMEMBERED to bring your kids on vacation and brought them home in one piece! Joy….
How has life changed for you since having kids?